YOU DO YOU

I remember friends good-naturedly joking that I’d never meet someone by hunkering down at home with books and puzzles and woolly blankets and a cat. Turns out, you absolutelypositively100% can

Because if those things are your happy place, then making time to enjoy them means you care about your own happiness. And learning how to create your own happiness is a pretty solid gift to offer any future relationship.

So while it’s always been branded as cooler to go out and “do” the dating scene (bars, parties, big games, etc)… none of us could’ve anticipated the day when that scene shuttered. When the bars closed and the parties stopped and every sports team went on hiatus. When the world was forced to stay home and nest and learn how to connect in quieter, more contemplative ways. When the clock turned back and dating became courting — sharing a walk, a picnic blanket, a sunset. And slowly building up enough trust to eventually hold a hand, fold up a mask, share a kiss.

There’s a slowness in partnering these days that requires more thought, closer attention, greater intention, and voiced consent every step of the way. This gentler pace has felt like a burden to some, and a balm to others. With all the unwelcome change of the past few years, I hope this is one that sticks.

So in short: you do you. Life is unpredictable. Create your own damn scene. If you build it, the right ones will come